Comments on: Book Review: Two is Enough by Laura S. Scott

By: KIMBER

KIMBER — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 07:37:13 +0000

I announced at about age 8 that I would never have kids. I was told that I would change my mind – well, I didn’t. It surprised me to read that young girls pick out names for children – I certainly didn’t.
It seems to me as though people who don’t have children put more thought into the decision than people who do have them. From what I can tell around me, kids “happen” to most people; to remain child-free, you make an effort to keep it from happening.
I’m surprised so many people get so much pressure about the decision to not have kids. I’ve never really gotten any of that – perhaps it’s obvious I would be completely unreceptive to that.
I thought about reasons to have kids and reasons not to have them, then realized that all the reasons I put down for having them had nothing to do with liking or wanting them – that told me everything I needed to know. I’m glad the author says that it’s not necessarily “different when they’re your own.” I’m honestly annoyed by the noise and chaos of children – I even felt that way when I was a child myself , and I really never thought there was a chance of that changing. It would have been terrible for everyone involved had I had them and discovered that I still felt that way – that seemed to big of a risk to take, especially since I didn’t care anything about taking it. Nobody should ever say to someone who feels like this that “it’s different when they’re your own” and “you’ll do fine.” The world is full of examples of people who don’t do fine as parents.

By: Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog

Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 22:28:58 +0000

That’s a great compliment, Laura! Thanks for taking time to drop by and read my review. I’ll be recommending your book to other young people navigating the parenthood decision.

By: Laura S. Scott

Laura S. Scott — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:01:00 +0000

Thank you Rebecca for such a thorough and thoughful review! It ranks at the top of reviews I’ve seen for Two is Enough so far.

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By: stacybuckeye

stacybuckeye — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:01:53 +0000

As a voluntarily childless couple (I’m 38) I must get my hands on this book. And maybe make the women I know read it

By: bookmagic

bookmagic — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 04:47:04 +0000

Great post. People think I am so strange for making different life choices than they do, but I’m happy. Marriage and children is just not for me. I wish more people would think before having kids. Sometimes it seems like people have kids just to have them and the children suffer.

By: Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog

Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:54:15 +0000

Well said, Ti. Those are my thoughts exactly. I’m not entering into that kind of commitment (that affects another person’s life so greatly) without being sure it’s what I want.

By: Ti

Ti — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:05:24 +0000

I think it’s good to just know what you want. Period. If you aren’t 100% sure and then you have a kid, you can’t very well take him/her back to the store because he/she didn’t fit. It is a huge decision for sure.

By: Florinda

Florinda — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:01:24 +0000

I have one child. I’ve never regretted it. But without a doubt, children will change your life, and your relationship with your partner – and I’ve seen far too many relationships where the kids have become the main thing the couple has in common. Sadly, some of those couples don’t seem to notice that themselves – or be bothered by it. (Some people just don’t examine their lives very much, I guess – personally, I don’t get that at all).

This is a complicated question, and it sounds like this book would help sort it out. Thanks for the review!

By: Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog

Rebecca @ The Book Lady's Blog — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 22:38:12 +0000

It’s that assumption that everyone (especially every woman) wants to be a parent that really bothers me. I know that in a few more years, when people ask how many kids we have and I tell them none, most of them will assume it’s because we couldn’t have them, not that we chose not to. And I completely agree with your idea about adopting.